I don’t want
to begin with a pessimistic perspective but contradicting to my usual self I
would honestly want to state that silence is gold while speech is silver. It’s
rather miraculously golden..!
RELAX, IT’S NOTHING NEW
Look back in
your past, may it be when you were in school and had a fight with one of your
friends, may it be when you were not chosen to play at the park with some kids,
may it be when you were not asked out by anyone for the prom night, may it be
when you were not invited to a college party, may it be when you were compared
with your friends or siblings as you were not as amazing as your parents
expected, may it be when you were not given a job due to some partial reasons, may
it be when you’re working and some obnoxious colleague is trying to bring you
down for no reason in front of your boss, may it be the first time you were
screamed at by your kids or may it be when your grandchild say that they had
grown to be smarter and wiser, may you be anybody who has gone through
something so out of control that you felt nothing but helpless, one phrase is
going to run through your mind and that is your mother saying “Let it go child,
you know your value is not going to decrease by someone’s inability to see your
worth.” This quote is so beautiful that it sees right through you and aids
right where you are hurt.
It was dawn and standing with my mother on the
porch I and my mother were having our favorite mother-daughter conversations,
how I wish they were endless because they are so reassuring that I feel all my
problems resolve. It was then when I asked her how she deals with people who
talk endlessly but when revised their talks are so empty. Their talks and
actions also sometimes make us feel so bullied. Is it only me who is over
thinking over such conversations? She smiled and said nothing is wrong with
you! It’s been going on since ages. Bewildered I asked her what has been going
on since ages. She couldn’t control her laugh anymore, she laughed and said people
talking endlessly, trying to talk around everything instead of proving anything
has been happening since ages. It’s nothing new. You listen from one ear and
throw it out from the other because when thought upon they are only going to
depress you and leave you drained out.
That’s when
I realized we have since the beginning been in a time where sitting around and
talking, judging and self-appraising is also known as passing time. We all have
been victims to unimportant talks which we regret as we could have done
something productive, we have had talks that ended with self-doubt and a
feeling of utter annoyance and of course an unhealthy company will lead to us
saying things which we will later regret, but do we keep letting people get to
us? People who bring nothing but negative vibes? That’s when silence helps us.
It increases our conscience and leads to betterment, it leads to conversations
with ourselves and that’s when we get to be ourselves and mainly know
ourselves, it helps us become a better human being and what’s a better mark
left behind then a mark of being a genuinely good person.