Really, you wound up with that person?

As a disclaimer I would want to tell my readers that this is no article for making any kind of person feel inferior neither is it in regard to a certain individual and yes, I do respect every human being for who they are.

I have seen so many people drown in melancholy over someone totally undeserving and hence, this is just an eye opener to every person in distress because you are beautiful just the way you are and you deserve so much better. Also, I have seen people with really undeserving people and wondered “I would have been happier to see you in the former distress than the distress you are unaware of but are presently in!”

I just wonder why..?

Not long before did I attend a wedding, of course it was grand and the entire mob of people along with the families of bride and groom seemed ecstatic and joyous. A general curiosity of yours would be why the word “seem”? An answer to that my friend is, the marriage was not very much in accordance with the bride’s family. The bride was a very well educated, talented and independent woman. She was raised with lots of love, care and proper guidance by her very extrovert parents. Little did they know that their little daughter was having a 6 year long affair with a neighborhood boy from when she was a teenager. The family of the boy was not very well off and also they were very introvert. In very much contrast to the girl, his education qualification was not quite enough to make ends meet and also his behavior, group of friends and company were not applaudable. This boy was none other than her husband, the groom. Her parents, closest relatives and friends tried to counsel her out of this as she deserved so much better in life but because she was blinded in love she did not even budge from her decision. Her life had so much of happiness awaiting her but she chose a different path, of course she did what she wanted to do but was it worth so much of sacrifice? Did she see the long term conditions? One may only wonder what if...

There are so many people all around the globe with someone without whom they could have been better off. People generally misunderstand psychological dependence and the filling of the void as love and little do they know that it may seem that it’s doing good to them but in reality it’s draining out their energy.

Love is when your partner helps you grow, encourages you towards betterment and helps you succeed. If the person you are with is very much opposite to the above then I think we may have a problem.  Leaving someone for your betterment is not selfish but sensible as you both can do better and can find someone worth each other. On the other hand getting your heart broken is not a bad sign but a good sign for the very same reason.

Diving into the shallow end of pool by making life decisions without perception is an act of stupidity.  Life is this beautiful gift to man-kind. Finding the right people for yourself, falling in love with a person who deserves your league and learning from your mistakes is all what life is about, so you better make most of it before the story of your life ends with “what if…”